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How To Choose The Perfect Wedding Date!
So you're engaged. Congratulations! Let the planning begin. But how much time do you have to check everything off your list? Choosing the wedding date is one of the very first things you and your fiancé should do. But how do you decide? Read on for the 5 things you can do to narrow the options down to a single, perfect, day!
So you're engaged. Congratulations! Let the planning begin. But how much time do you have to check everything off your list? Choosing the wedding date is one of the very first things you and your fiancé should do. But how do you decide? Read on for the 5 things you can do to narrow the options down to a single, perfect, day!
ONE Make a list of special dates in your relationship.
When was your first date? The day you became "official"? The first time you said I love you? Any of these dates (and so more!) would be wonderful to commemorate by holding your wedding on the same day, x years later!
TWO Take your budget into account.
Keep in mind how much you need to save up for your big day. Is it doable in 6 months? Or is a year and a half more realistic? Don't let your excitement outweigh practicallity - it's very hard to throw a wedding without any money! Don't stress yourself out by giving yourself too little time to save. The wedding planning process is already intense enough!
Not sure what your budget is yet? Read my article on setting a realistic wedding budget here!
THREE Rate the seasons from your favourite to least favourite.
This one is pretty self-explanatory. Do you share a favourite season? Great! If not, try a little math. Rate your favourite season a 1, next favourite a 2, and so on. Have your partner do the same. Then, add the numbers for summer together, the numbers for winter together, and so on again. It should look something like this:
Spring: 1 + 2 = 3
Summer: 2 + 3 = 5
Fall: 3 + 1 = 4
Winter : 4 + 4 = 8
The smallest number is a great choice! You could also just compromise, of course, but no married couple ever has to do that, so there's really no need. (Hopefully you detected all of the sarcasm is that statement.) If you both really have no season preference, or are really bad at compromising, it may be easier to come at it from a design perspective first. Think about your ideal colour scheme, venue, photos, decor, mood, attire, food, everything! Does a theme emerge? If you were to pick one time of year that fit with all of the aspects you both love, which would it be?
Not sure what you want your wedding to look like? I suggest starting a Pinterest board and pinning images that jump out at you! Check out one of my four (yeah, four!) wedding boards below for an idea:
Regardless of how you come to an agreement, knowing which season you'd like to get married in is a great help!
FOUR Where will your wedding take place?
The location of your wedding will, of course, have a big impact on which date you choose. Getting married in Greece? You probably won't pick the same day as if you were getting married in Northern Canada. If you're planning on getting married or taking photographs outdoors, you'll want to pick a time in your preferred season that is likely to have favourable weather. If you're planning on staying inside, you have a bit more leeway!
FIVE Think of your guests.
Are your guests coming from out of town? Are you inviting children who are in school? Is your best friend going away for 3 months? Keep the people you care about most in mind when choosing the date. Not only will they be thankful, but you will be too when more of your loved ones can RSVP yes!
Jason and I loved the idea of getting married on a day that was special to us, and what could be more special than our first date? Since we had our first date at the beginning of September, and we both wanted an outdoor wedding and LOVE summer, it was a perfect fit! We checked the date in our preferred year (about 15 months after our engagement to give us time to save!) and it fell on a Sunday. Absolutely ideal for our dream brunch wedding! I hope that these tips help you and your partner find your perfect wedding date, and wish you all the best with the exciting changes to come :)
Until next time,
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The Ultimate Wedding Planning Timeline!
This week Jason and I celebrated our one year anniversary, which means we're now less than a year away from our wedding! While this makes me incredibly excited (I might have squealed for a second...) it also makes me more than a bit nervous. Only a year until our wedding?? How could we possibly get everything done? What needs to be tackled first? What do I do?? But luckily, being the organized bride-to-be that I am, I'd already compiled a list of tasks to get done before the wedding a couple of weeks after our engagement. Once I'd listed everything that came to mind I headed to Pinterest and searched for "wedding planning timeline". I then proceeded to repin every search result and add anything I'd missed to my list. By the end of a couple of hours I had a pretty comprehensive list, and I realized that other engaged couples may benefit from it! So here it is, the ultimate wedding planning timeline to keep you organized right up until your big day!
This week Jason and I celebrated our one year anniversary, which means we're now less than a year away from our wedding! While this makes me incredibly excited (I might have squealed for a second...) it also makes me more than a bit nervous. Only a year until our wedding?? How could we possibly get everything done? What needs to be tackled first? What do I do?? But luckily, being the organized bride-to-be that I am, I'd already compiled a list of tasks to get done before the wedding a couple of weeks after our engagement. Once I'd listed everything that came to mind I headed to Pinterest and searched for "wedding planning timeline". I then proceeded to repin every search result and add anything I'd missed to my list. By the end of a couple of hours I had a pretty comprehensive list, and I realized that other engaged couples may benefit from it! So here it is, the ultimate wedding planning timeline to keep you organized right up until your big day!
Without further ado, here's the ultimate wedding planning timeline! Pin it to your wedding board on Pinterest to refer to as you plan your big day!
Jason and I have almost completed the 12+ months before checklist. Not bad for two people as busy as we are! If you found this post helpful please share it with your friends and family who are planning their wedding. We've got to help each other out. This process is pretty daunting alone!
Until next time,
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How Much Wedding Can You Afford? Choosing The Big Number for Your Big Day
Weddings cost a lot. A whole lot. A put-away-every-extra-penny-for-your-entire-engagement-and-only-eat-rice-and-beans-and-don't-buy-anything-that-could-be-considered-a-want lot. When I read that the average wedding in Canada costs over $31,000 I got very close to giving up and eloping with Jason right then and there (we were in Costa Rica, after all. Not a bad locale if you ask me.) But I have always dreamed of a wedding including my closest and dearest, and so had he. We decided to stick it out and go with a traditional wedding. But at what cost?
Weddings cost a lot. A whole lot. A put-away-every-extra-penny-for-your-entire-engagement-and-only-eat-rice-and-beans-and-don't-buy-anything-that-could-be-considered-a-want lot. When I read that the average wedding in Canada costs over $31,000 I got very close to giving up and eloping with Jason right then and there (we were in Costa Rica, after all. Not a bad locale if you ask me.) But I have always dreamed of a wedding including my closest and dearest, and so had he. We decided to stick it out and go with a traditional wedding. But at what cost?
That is the exact topic I'd like to explore today. How much should you really be spending on your wedding? There are a whole host of factors, and every couple will be different, but I hope that these talking points that Jason and I spent time over will help you and your soon to be spouse figure out the big number for your special day.
Who's paying?
This is the first thing you want to figure out. Are you and your fiancé paying for everything yourselves or will you be getting help from family? Is your family paying for the entire shindig? You need to know who's contributing to footing the bill.
How much outside contribution can you count on?
You don't want to just assume that your parents will contribute as much as you need, you have to actually ask them. (You may think this is common sense, but common sense isn't really all that common.) Have a frank discussion, even if it makes you uncomfortable, and ask them how much (if any) they're willing and able to put towards your day. Don't go into it with any expectations, that way if they do agree to help you financially you'll be grateful no matter what the dollar amount is. Understand that they may not be capable of contributing at this point for various reasons and respect their decision. If they do want to help out, get a specific number from them so that you can plug it into your calculations. Things may change a little as the planning goes along, but you want to have the most accurate idea of what you'll be getting from outside sources right from the start.
How much do you have in savings?
Have an honest conversation with your fiancé and find out how much each of you has already saved and how much each of you is willing to contribute from those savings. You need to think about the amount you want to have remaining in your savings accounts AFTER the fact; you don't want to use your emergency fund to pay for your wedding! A wedding is wonderful, but it's just one day. Don't sacrifice your financial security for the foreseeable future for a party, no matter how special!
How much can each of you save leading up to the wedding?
Look at what each of you expect to make in the time leading up to your wedding, subtract your needs, and figure out how much each of you could save, under ideal circumstances. Don't include income that isn't guaranteed to come in. Any extra income can be a bonus booster to your wedding budget, if you need it! Make sure to leave a little wiggle room in your monthly living budget for wants - you don't want to deprive yourselves as you go through the (potentially stressful) wedding planning process. Keep enough fun money for a couple of date nights and treats here and there, you'll appreciate it later I promise!
Add up all contributions from family and friends, the amount you can allocate from your savings, and the amount that you can each reasonably put aside in the time left to your wedding to find your absolute max budget. You do not want to make this number your actual wedding budget! Look at the next series of questions to determine how much you actually want to spend, and keep any of the left over money as a buffer. Unexpected costs always come up and having money ready for that purpose reduces stress by approximately 500%.
Are you planning on a honeymoon?
Putting aside the funds for a honeymoon can be a big task. Ask yourselves if you need to go on a honeymoon right away, or even at all. If you do want to go right after the wedding look into options that fit within your means and shop around for the best deals.
How many guests do you REALLY need?
Make an initial guest list, then cut anyone you don't NEED at your wedding. This day is about you and your future spouse and your commitment to each other. Rather than thinking of the guest list through the lens of who you'd like to have there, think about who you'd be distraught to not see on the day. Who are those people who you and your spouse couldn't get married without? The number of guests has a huge impact on the final cost of your wedding, so think long and hard about how much you want your coworker's second cousin to witness your nuptials.
Do you need to get married near a major city?
On the whole, weddings near a city centre will be more costly than those further away. Do you need to be married in the heart of downtown Toronto, or will Barrie do just as nicely? Do your research on real costs in the area you're looking at to get a better idea of what you'll be parting with.
How much are you each comfortable spending?
Does the idea of spending tens of thousands of dollars on one weekend make you sweat? Or does a $50,000 budget sound just fine? You need to get a clear picture of what each of you is willing to spend so that you won't regret it in the years following your wedding. Keep in mind your other financial goals for the next 5 years. Make a list of where you'd like to be and make sure you aren't shooting the future you in the foot by overspending today.
Related Blog Post: 7 Ways Pinterest is the Best Wedding Planning Tool on the Internet!
Now that you've really thought about it, come up with a number that you both feel good about. Know that no matter how much you plan, your wedding day will likely pop up with unexpected costs. Don't beat yourself up if you end up a little off your goal! Remember, that's why you set your actual budget below your absolutely maximum budget, so that you had a bit of breathing room. Now get out there and start the fun part.
Until next time,
How did you and your spouse come up with a budget for your wedding? Let me know in the comments below! Share this post with your engaged friends to give them a leg up in the planning process and check out my wedding boards on Pinterest for a little wedding inspiration!
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7 Ways Pinterest is the Best Wedding Planning Tool on the Internet!
Wedding planning is much harder than I thought. MUCH. Let me clarify: I never expected it to be easy. But MAN is there a lot to do! I was never someone who spent much time thinking about my wedding, and by extension, wedding planning. I hadn't dreamt of my dress, picked out a location, or imagined the reception. Until I joined Pinterest, that is. After a few months resisting the urge to create a wedding board and letting all of the beautiful pictures float away, un-pinned, into the abyss, never to be retrieved... I gave in. How could I not? For the first time in my life I was thinking about what my possible-eventual-hypothetical wedding might be like, and it was REALLY fun. But I didn't have a fiancé, or even a serious boyfriend, so I tried to keep the crazy pinning lust to a minimum. Because who wants to date a girl with 3,000 pins on her wedding board?
Wedding planning is much harder than I thought. MUCH. Let me clarify: I never expected it to be easy. But MAN is there a lot to do! I was never someone who spent much time thinking about my wedding, and by extension, wedding planning. I hadn't dreamt of my dress, picked out a location, or imagined the reception. Until I joined Pinterest, that is. After a few months resisting the urge to create a wedding board and letting all of the beautiful pictures float away, un-pinned, into the abyss, never to be retrieved... I gave in. How could I not? For the first time in my life I was thinking about what my possible-eventual-hypothetical wedding might be like, and it was REALLY fun. But I didn't have a fiancé, or even a serious boyfriend, so I tried to keep the crazy pinning lust to a minimum. Because who wants to date a girl with 3,000 pins on her wedding board?
Fast forward a couple years, and here I am: engaged to be married to the love of my life, Jason, and utterly dumbfounded by the wedding planning process. But wait, what's that I hear in the distance? Is that fanfare? Am I being saved by a knight in white, super-shiny, armour? Why yes I am, and this time it's not my fiancé. (Don't tell him I said that.) It's Pinterest!
- Inspiration is guaranteed with all of the gorgeous wedding-related pins. It's so easy to make a mood board for your wedding with all of the elements you're looking for to keep on on track throughout the whole process!
- Organization is easy and tailor made to you! Make multiple boards for different aspects of your wedding like the dress or the ceremony so that you always know where to find what you're looking for.
- Sharing the planning with your bridesmaids (or mom!) who are out of town is easy with group boards, where all of your friends and family can collaborate with you to make your day perfect!
- Saving money is made easier by all of the fantastic wedding DIYs and budget tips at your fingertips! Be sure to pin things you can make yourself to save $ on the bottom line of your big day.
- Remembering all of the little things isn't so hard with checklists, timelines, and questions to ask your vendors all in handy graphics!
- Keeping Track of vendors you'd like to look into is simple; just pin a photo from their website and you're good to go!
- Having fun is the best part! Inject some fun into the often stressful wedding planning process and get lost for minutes (*cough* hours) in the happy land of pinning. You'll relax AND get stuff done all at once! Look through your board with your fiancé and watch his or her eyes light up when an image sparks their imagination for your special day is almost as magical as having a unicorn as your post-ceremony transportation.
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So there you have it, the 7 ways that Pinterest is saving my wedding-planning butt! I hope you utilize Pinterest to its full potential during your wedding planning process and that its calming, trance-like, effect helps you to relax after a long day of budgetting, dress shopping, and flower arrangements. Be sure to check out my wedding boards on Pinterest for some wedding-pinning inspiration!
Until next time, I'm off to pin centrepieces!
Do you use Pinterest in your wedding planning? How do you use it most?
Not planning a wedding? What's your number 1 favourite thing to pin on Pinterest?
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